Last Friday night I decided to stay in and surf ancestry.com I stumbled upon a tree for my grandfather. To my surprise the owner of the tree had the same exact information I had on my tree for my grandfather, his siblings and some of his relatives. My first thought was, was the owner a relative of mine? The next thought was why didn’t the owner contact me? When I say the same information, I mean the owner even had my pictures, like a copy and paste tree. I am all for sharing, that’s why I leave my trees public, I want to contact with possible relatives. But I now understand why some folks make their trees private, why they don’t disclose everything detail about a relative or why some even put wrong information about a family member on purpose. When I find my ancestors or relatives in someone else’s tree, I reach out to the owner of that tree, most get back to me but a few don’t but I still reach out. Well I reached out and found out the owner of the tree is doing research for a number of people and the owner said one of the folks their researching for is possibly related to the people on my tree. This still makes me think, why didn’t the owner of the tree contact me to see what information or to see if it was accurate? Maybe the owner was and I just beat them to it or maybe the owner and or person whom they were researching for was satisfied with the information that was on my tree. I am wondering is there a thing as family tree etiquette? Even if your tree is public should someone have to ask you to add an ancestor or relative on their tree? Should they ask you to use your pictures? Is it free range since your tree is public? Since this little incident it has made me think twice about making my tree public on ancestry. I did the work in finding these documents, creating my tree and even adding pictures and someone takes what I did without a word is a little wrong to me.